Does rejecting give women an ego-rush or something? (follow up to shazza's topic)

[Zak]

I mostly agree with you Shadow Wolf...

Well, I'm not sure if I'm going to make sense with what I'm about to say, but I hope that I do.

I think that the key word for these and many other situations is "ego". As far as I've seen in some cases, I have reached the conclusion that good values like chivalry are reserved for "friendzoned" guys and girls (this term is more used for guys, but I believe it applies for both, nonetheless). What I've seen is that some people are just attracted to people with greater ego than theirs. Is like, the bigger the ego, the harder it will be to "win" me and the "more" I deserve for being such an attractive (high-ego) person.

Bingo. That's why, when you ask someone out, the most important thing is to completely avoid inflating their ego in the slightest bit, make it be about you rather than them and how much they'll be missing out. I know that might seem like manipulation, but unfortunately for many it's the efficient way to 'win'. The slightest complement to them is potentially a nail in the coffin.
Usually the flaws they see are because you are trying too hard, or as they say "putting them on a pedestal". The only thing you should be trying hard is NOT putting them on a pedestal.

Now, whenever there are people who, instead of ego, develop qualities that are important, like respect, chivalry, consideration, and things like that, they usually are answered with: "You're nice, but...", "You're not my type...", and others like this. Plus, since the stereotypes for attractiveness are very influenced by the media, many people prefer looks over values.

Yeah but looks aren't really the factor I'm referring to, that's a whole different discussion altogether.

Now, speaking a bit about that situation, my opinion is that, whenever someone approaches X person, and is not "worthy" of becoming a potential partner, that person brands him/her with the sign of disapproval and thus, he/she is "allowed" to disrespect said person because, again, that person is not on his/her league (kinda similar to rich vs poor people, and similar stereotypes, don't you think?)

You kind of lost me... its a bit unclear in that paragraph who you're saying is allowed to disrespect who and who isn't in who's league. Could go either way with entirely different messages.

Finally, I believe that is not only disgusting, but also harmful for both parties. One end tries to be a good person, only to realize that "good guys usually don't win" (Kinda remembering The Mask on this one) and the other end will meet the day when he/she will realize that the ego made him/her lose things that truly matter in life.

Anyway, I'm usually naive with these topics, since I lack experience, but I kinda wanted to share my two cents. I just hope that I made sense, though.

Well there's your green light to have the last word and make them feel guilty (because they deserve it, assuming they don't have some other more pressing reason).

But I was talking about classification in general... I meant their cunty behavior.

EDIT: I guess that's what you meant in the third paragraph where you lost me.