
Originally Posted by
Asilynne
Even though when unexplained it does sound a bit horrible, I know what he is trying to say when he says "Blame yourself". While I'm not saying you should blame yourself if you can't get the kind of job you want, what he's saying is take your life into your control, rather than point the finger at everyone else for your problems, get motivated and decide "I want the things I want and I will do what I have to to get them".
I've been unemployed for a month twice this year, because of being laid off the first time and the second one because it was quite literally a man's job. Everyone who worked there with me helped me so much and was all for a woman joining, that wasn't the problem, it was that even being a strong woman I still couldn't really handle the every day strenuousness of the work, it was a very physically demanding job. Each time I found myself out of work I applied everywhere, got a lot of interviews but I also was rejected repeatedly. It started to make me almost blame the economy and shout out that its not my fault if no one hires me. But I can't just sit around whinging about the state of the world, I am in control of my own life and if I want a good job I will go out and get it. And so I took some security classes, got some certs under my belt, and continued to apply everywhere. Which resulted in me finally getting a job that pays better than any I have had so far, with health insurance, and one that I actually like as well.
This isn't luck, this is seeing what I don't like about life and being determined enough to do it. If everyone was this motivated and relentless, there would be a lot less unemployment. There ARE jobs out there, you might have to suck it up and put aside your pride to work them (I have also worked at 7/11 once because I needed a job and I refuse to sit around collecting unemployment) but there ARE options. Being 'uneducated' isn't even an excuse because I don't have a degree either, I couldn't afford to go to college.
So yes, that's what I think he means. Its the same value my dad instilled within us kids. You might have to work a shit job, have 3 or 4 roommates in a rental, but there are options out there besides being unemployed. When you really want something you'd be surprised at how inventive you can get, and still make an HONEST living.
(Also I think part of the problem is it pays more to be collecting unemployment than a lot of shit jobs pay for actually working, that doesn't strike me as encouraging people to work.)