Does rejecting give women an ego-rush or something? (follow up to shazza's topic)

[Zak]

lolwut

If you want a serious reply then here it is: some people make themselves feel better by making others feel worse about themselves. Some of these are women. Women can easily do this by rejecting a man in a humiliating way. It is usually a sign of a person's insecurity about their themselves more than it is a sign of that person's confidence.

tl;dr version: bitches be stepping

Bingo. I said the exact same thing (which I'll rephrase) in one of my replies when I was talking about how its important to make sure you have the upper hand. I said how the best way to approach someone is to make it be about you and being their loss rather than about them, avoid buttering them up and putting on a pedastool entirely. The more you make it about yourself, the more sign of confidence there is, because in a way you are beating them at their own game.
Guess we are on the same page then because I am well aware of how efficient that is (which it is).

Also the best way to avoid any sort of 'friendzone' (usually) is whenever you feel compelled to suck up to them or comfort them, do the opposite. Even if it 'feels' wrong, because like Greyfox said before to fake it. If you really wanna get laid then it really is worth that leap of faith, because it shows you're not constantly worried about what she's thinking.

p.s. will reply to Grey later

[Greyfox]

Also the best way to avoid any sort of 'friendzone' (usually) is whenever you feel compelled to suck up to them or comfort them, do the opposite. Even if it 'feels' wrong, because like Greyfox said before to fake it. If you really wanna get laid then it really is worth that leap of faith, because it shows you're not constantly worried about what she's thinking.

Fake confidence, sure, because that ultimately turns into real confidence. But don't be a dick to the girl just because you want to avoid the so-called "friendzone".

Personally, I don't really believe in that sort of place. I think it's just a term people use to cast blame on the other person instead of coming to terms with the fact that they're just not attractive to the person they're trying to attract.

[Zak]

Fake confidence, sure, because that ultimately turns into real confidence. But don't be a dick to the girl just because you want to avoid the so-called "friendzone".

Personally, I don't really believe in that sort of place. I think it's just a term people use to cast blame on the other person instead of coming to terms with the fact that they're just not attractive to the person they're trying to attract.

I wouldn't be so sure about that. I know some guys that would be generally considered physically attractive and having a 'charming personality' that have been in the friend-zone situation with certain girls, who they previously were somewhat close with (and I don't necessarily consider myself below-average, either).
Perhaps some people are just 'too close to home', by their standards! Of course, I still don't necessarily agree with that being a reason to rule someone out, but just pointing that it's possible that that really is how they genuinely feel and it's not just a mask for 'not attractive enough'.

It kind of makes sense. Four years ago, my second-cousin (who is not blood-related to me) told me she was into me, as in, like that... well, it's not like I grew up with her or see her on a regular basis, but I never really thought about it as it probably would have been out of the question to pursue, and even if it wasn't, it wouldn't work out since she lives in Israel.

Also, as far as 'being a dick' goes, it depends how you go about it, sometimes it is efficient as long as it's tactful rather than just jarringly passive-aggressive to the point that it makes her angry and not want to talk to you. I'm sure many agree that it IS an efficient way to avoid it. As long as it's just enough to say 'you can't walk all over me' without being a complete douche. Try it yourself sometime if you ever feel like taking that leap of faith.